BLACK SINGLE WOMAN:BEING USED VS BEING LOVED

Being Single is not a crime. However, when you have been single for a long time, often, the desperation of getting into a relationship may lead to a lot of troubles. Especially, if you are a woman, you may end up getting used by your partners for everything. The world is full of examples of how men have used women time and again to fulfil their whims, fancies, desires, and dreams. And despite the numerous real life examples, women even today end up being in a toxic relationship where men take advantage and use them to the fullest extent possible before eventually throwing them out of their lives.

Exchange that to a scenario where a woman gets a partner of her choice. A partner who loves his woman and makes her feel special and loved. That entire feeling of being loved and valued in a mutually satisfying relationship will be different. In this piece, we will walk you through both the scenarios – i.e. How a woman ends up getting used in various ways versus How it is when she finds her ultimate man who loves and values her.

Let us begin by seeing the various ways in which a woman gets used by men and how their feeling used by men most often than not.

Ways in Which Single Women Get Used?

Right from the moment a woman gets into a relationship with a man who has an intention of using the woman more than love, a woman would start feeling the heat of it all. There are a number of ways and reasons for which a woman may be used by men. In this section we will discuss all possible ways in which a woman gets used and more:

1. For Companionship and Some men use women simply because they need some companionship. This usually happens when men who have just broken up or moved out of a relationship are looking forward to fill that vacuum. This is also known as the rebound phase and often when men befriend women after a recent break up, most often than not, such relationships do not last very long. Men at times and even women enter into relationship simply to get rid of their loneliness and boredom after a recent breakup. In this process, in anticipation and search of some love woman tend to get used by men. Eventually, they end up getting hurt and their feeling used thereby ending up in more pain and loneliness.

2. For Sex and This is the most common reason for which men target women knowingly. For the sole purpose of some physical satisfaction and fun, men sometimes befriend women. When women fall in love with such men, these men realize that it is getting serious and gradually the men start distancing themselves from such women. So, what happens in such cases is that the women end up getting used by selfish men merely for sex and some fun and once their purpose is fulfilled, they leave them and go.

3. For Money and This is another very common reason and way how women are used by men. Rich and powerful women often fall into love with men who befriend them purely with the intention of using their money. Such men have no intention of getting into a long term commitment with such women but only intend to use their money and riches. Rich and well to do single women of all age groups are vulnerable to such men. Whether you are a young and rich girl looking for a partner or a middle age woman in your thirties and forties, rich, successful but lonely, you will come across such unscrupulous men.

4. As a Ladder to Individual Success and This is another reason why women often get used by men. Many successful women through their hard work and charisma end up being placed at top positions in organizations. And if such women are single that makes them a very soft target for selfish men. Such men use these women to climb up the success ladder whether in corporate world or otherwise. Once these men get what they befriend these successful women for, they tend to desert them, leave them and go. These people purely use women as a means to achieve their goals in life. Once their purpose is solved – they throw these women out of their lives shamelessly.

5. As an Outlet to Vent Out Anger and Frustration and Many men get into relationships with women with the sole purpose of venting their anger and frustration on their partners. Such men may be unsuccessful and unconfident in their day to day lives and in public view. And as such when they are with their women, they may end up venting all their anger and frustration. Such men often do this by torturing them, beating them up or even saying and doing things to them which they otherwise cannot do to other people outside. In the process, the women in such relationships get used and end up losing both their self-esteem and sometimes many precious years of their life.

Now that we have talked the various ways in which women get used, let us look at the other way round. Let us talk about how things become when a woman is loved by their men.

What Happens When a Woman is Being Loved and is around Well Behaved Men?

When a woman is loved by their men, they can turn the whole world around for you. Love can do wonders to a woman. When a woman is loved and treated right, they can completely transform the lives of their men. They can completely change their partner’s live and fill their lives with everything good and positive. So, how does it feel like when a woman is around well behaved men. How is it different from being used or being in a toxic relationship? Let us talk about how it all feels in the following points:

1.Feeling of Being Loved – When a woman is with a man who loves her, the first thing that happens is that beautiful feeling that fills that woman up. That beautiful feeling of being loved makes everything look beautiful and wonderful. That feeling is eternal and will not feel superficial and that differentiates that feeling of being loved from being used by your man.

2. Feeling of Being Respected – When a woman is with the right man, apart from being loved, that feeling of being respected in the relationship will also be very much evident and visible. A well behaved man who loves you and intends to be with you forever will respect you for who and what you are. Love and Respect often go hand in hand and when you are in the right kind of relationship with a well behaved man, this feeling of being respected as a woman differentiates between being in love and being used.

3. No Conditions Whatsoever – In a right kind of relationship where your man loves you and treats you right, there will be no conditions whatsoever. Love is always unconditional and if you are with the right man you will never have to fulfil any conditions to get that love from your partner. If you feel that you are into a relationship where you feel loved unconditionally, you can say without an ounce of doubt that you are with the right man and in a right kind of relationship full of love, respect, care, and everything good.

4. Feeling of being a Strength to Each Other – When you are in a toxic relationship, or in a relationship where you are merely being used by your partner, you will feel weak to the core. On the contrary, if you are being loved right, you will feel that your man is the source of your strength. There will be an innate feeling that no matter what happens in life, your man will be by your side you to face that situation with you.

5. Sense of Safety and Security – With the right kind of man and in the right relationship where there is love, respect, and everything good, you will feel a deep sense of safety and security. You will feel safe and secure with the right man versus feeling unsafe and threatened with a selfish man who simply used you.

Final Thoughts – Conclusion

To summarize and to conclude there are stark differences between how it feels to be in a relationship where a man is using the women versus a relationship full of love and mutual respect. A wrong relationship will feel all wrong whereas a right relationship with the right man will be full of positivity and good vibes.

Even the couples in the right relationship can still use each other. They can use each other in a positive way. Where there is love, respect, and care for each other a couple can be each other strength in pushing each other to do well in their respective fields or careers. They can support each other financially when required and help each other grow in their personal and professional lives in all possible ways. The sky is the limit when you are with a partner who loves you and treats you right.

So, good luck and carry on with your search for the right man. For the man of your dreams is just around the corner and and it is just a matter of some time.