BLACK SINGLE WOMAN : WHAT KIND OF HEART AM I DATING ?

All of us deserve to meet and connect with the right person. Our dream partners are made of love, magic, and a good heart. They make us feel happy, stable, and warm; they make every single day (even the most boring ones) seem like a lifelong adventure; and most importantly, they are understanding and empathetic at all times and in all situations. But how exactly do you figure out whether your person has the right heart? What key factors should you consider while choosing your right partner? Well, these are some of the many questions we will explore in the next few sections.

Matters of the heart

You might be wondering why we are emphasizing a good heart. The answer is simple: our heart controls our body, regulates our passion, and makes us what we are. So, it is entirely in our hearts to conjure good or evil.

If the person you are dating has a good heart, they will be naturally inclined to behave well. Perhaps, one of the easiest ways to determine this is by assessing their sense of humor. As opposed to an individual with an evil heart, a person with a good heart will refrain from making sarcastic or snide remarks unnecessarily. Instead, they will exhibit a sense of humor that will elevate you and conjure a warm, fuzzy feeling.

People with evil hearts often choose to enjoy themselves at others’ expense. However, people with the right heart won’t do this. Their humor won’t tear you down or disrespect you. If they crack a joke, their only intention would be to make you happy. So, next time your partner cracks a joke, observe them, because this is but an excellent way to gauge your partner’s nature.

In addition to being humorous, the individual will also be good-natured and generous. You will often be thrilled by his acts of simple generosity. Unlike narcissists who only care about themselves, a good-natured individual will shower you and the people around him with the little or many things they have.

These individuals also tend to be extremely attentive and caring without expecting anything in return. Their love is true, one-of-a-kind, and truly unconditional.

The Signs of a Good Heart

Now that you have a brief idea about the matters of the heart, you might be wondering about the other signs to gauge an individual’s genuineness of heart, interest, and motive. Here’s all you need to know.

Welcoming Attitude

Now, how do you decide if someone has a good heart? In addition to the above points, a key point to consider is the person’s general attitude. Is your partner welcoming and accommodating? Is their door always open for others? Do they consciously and unconsciously make efforts to be kind even in the most difficult situations?

If the answers to most of these questions are yes, chances are, you are with a good-natured person who also has their heart in the right place. These individuals are never motivated by greed. Instead, they are always looking to help others with whatever resources they have. They are unafraid to express their empathy. That is also the reason why it will often appear as if they are tasked with managing the entire world around them.

Though this may be annoying for some, remember that this is but the sign of an excellent heart. People with good hearts never shy away from responsibilities. They instead grab it by the collar and make sure that the last of their responsibilities are dutifully met.

Harbingers of Happiness

Another factor to focus on is their genuine desire to bring happiness. Good-natured individuals are harbingers of happiness. They go above and beyond their expected duties to make the other person happy. Even though this is a rare trait, many of us still exhibit it. So, if you find your partner trying their best to make people happy, know that it is because of their excellent heart that is only filled with love.

Prompt Apologies

Unlike narcissists and people with evil hearts, the right person will also be less hesitant when it comes to accepting their mistakes and apologizing for the same. Instead of defending themselves, they will immediately accept the mistake if they are indeed responsible for that. Unlike narcissists, they won’t justify themselves with excuses.

If your partner has a good heart, they will also be honest; and when they are honest and straightforward, they won’t shy away from apologizing if the mistake is indeed from their end. So, next time you argue with your partner, check how they react to the entire situation. Do they promptly apologize, understanding their mistake, and in the hopes of being better? Or do they immediately start acting like the fault was somebody else?

Remember, a person who doesn’t apologize is just acting from their hubris and conceit. A person with a good heart is not hubristic. Instead, they are humble and always willing to change for the better. Look for that flexibility in your partner and try to identify their desire to change.

An individual with a good heart is never satisfied with their goodness. They try to go above and beyond their responsibilities to be better. So, if your partner is always looking to be better, it might as well be an indicator that they are a good person.

Always Looking to Address Roadblocks

Finally, these individuals are also looking to make things simpler and easy. So, if you encounter problems in your relationship, they might be the first ones to address that. A good person won’t hold resentment or grudge. Why? Because they love you with your many quirks and flaws. If at any stage, you are being unreasonable, a good-hearted individual will try to reason with you instead of fighting you. They will make the right judgment call and refrain from mud-slinging or blame games. So, while deciding whether your partner is indeed good-natured with a good heart, do consider this crucial factor.

The Signs Of an Evil Heart

While you will find good-natured individuals with good hearts, there are plenty of others whose hearts aren’t as pure. These individuals have an evil heart because they manifest and work on their evil thoughts. Unlike happy, jovial, and good-hearted individuals, these individuals are always looking to find flaws in others. They are also extremely empathetic and disrespectful to anyone who doesn’t serve their interests or purpose.

These individuals are also extremely needy, without any life and purpose of their own. Even if they succeed, their conceit overpowers their humility, leaving them with nothing beyond the capacity of empty words.

But is there any specific way to pinpoint an evil heart? How to understand if your partner is evil and narcissistic? Let’s find out!

They Are Always Impatient and Never Willing to Understand

A person with an evil heart won’t be patient with you. The moment you stop serving their interest, they will immediately start finding flaws in your personality. These individuals won’t respect you for being what you are. Instead, they will constantly try to change you to satisfy themselves and their needs at that time.

These individuals do not know how to love unconditionally. So, even if they shower you with gifts and favors, it is often backed by a favor they need from you.

They Are Disrespectful

A person with a good heart will go above and beyond their capacity to help the needy. They are kind even when the situation is difficult. However, individuals with evil hearts are naturally disrespectful to people. The biggest manifestations of this disrespect can be observed and perceived when they communicate with someone below their standing. These individuals will leave no stone unturned to remind the less fortunate individual about their status, only to feel good about themselves.

If a person’s happiness derives from the misery he inflicts on others, he can never be a good person with a kind heart.

They Avoid Responsibilities

Individuals with evil hearts are greedy. Thus, they only do things to amuse themselves. You will never find these individuals helping or supporting other individuals. Nor will you find them accepting or taking up responsibilities, when it doesn’t concern them. A good-natured person is selfless or at least they make reasonable attempts to achieve selflessness. However, you will never find the same quality in a person with an evil heart.

Bottom Line

In life, we meet plenty of people. Unfortunately, we don’t get a chance to connect with all of them. If you do connect with the right person who indeed has a good heart, cherish that relationship, and sustain it with your best efforts. With the right person, this will be easier than ever!

Remember, even though having a good heart is crucial to sustaining a relationship, your partner can always try to be better. If they are putting that effort and understanding their mistakes, they certainly have a good heart.

You can sustain any relationship if both of you put in the right effort. So, if both partners are willing to understand and empathize with each other, you are already on the path to a warm and fulfilling relationship that not merely satisfies you, but also helps you become a better person.