BLACK SINGLE WOMAN : WHY SINGLE MEN RUN FROM GOOD WOMEN ?

It’s a question that has baffled the world since dating first began: ‘Why do single men curb good women when dating?’ It’s a hard question to answer too, because it just doesn’t seem to make sense. You might be a beautiful, successful, driven woman yourself, and you might struggle to find a man. Maybe you’ve even been on dates with single men and everything seems to go well and then… nothing. No text, no call. Another one bites the dust! And even though you’re beautiful, successful, and driven, you might wonder if you’re the problem. (SPOILER: you’re definitely not!) So, this post will look at why single men run from good women, but before we do, let’s just define what a good woman means to us.

What Is A ‘Good Woman’?

To us, a good woman is powerful. A good woman has strength and beauty (in her heart and in the way she looks – even if she can’t see it for herself, because everybody is beautiful in their own way). She is driven, successful, and has her own mind. She knows what she wants, and she goes out and gets it. In short, a good woman is, well, a woman – not a girl. She’s grown, and she’s not somebody who will let any man walk all over her. To us, a good woman is the perfect woman to date, but unfortunately, not all single men see that.

So Why Are Men Running From Them?

If the description above sounds like you, or a friend of yours who isn’t able to find a man, then you’re probably scratching your head right now wondering why there isn’t a queue of single men around the block waiting for a chance to impress. Unfortunately though, not all men can handle a good woman.

You see, lots of single men are used to their life running in a certain way. They do what they want, when they want, and they aren’t accountable to anybody but themselves. A good woman though, isn’t somebody who will sit back and let their man run all over town doing whatever he wants, because a good woman has respect for herself and her relationship, so she expects more of her man too. And single men know this.

So, rather than dealing with their own insecurities about being in a successful relationship, many men will choose to date women who don’t challenge them. They look for women who are happy to take them as they are, with no expectation of growth. In a nutshell, single men are running from good women because they’re often too scared to deal with them. Maybe it’s their insecurities, or maybe it’s because they simply don’t know how to handle a good woman because they’ve never dated one in the past. Whatever the case, the majority of the time good women struggle to find a man, not because of themselves, but because of the men they are dating.

Who Are Single Men Running To?

So if all these single men are running away from good women, they must be running to somebody, right? So who are these women? What do they have that good women don’t? Well, we touched on it a little before, but one of the main things that single men look for to protect their insecurities is a woman who doesn’t expect them to grow.

It’s a lot of effort to make positive changes in your life, we know that, so a lot of single men simply aren’t willing to put in the work to be with a good woman. If they can find a woman who is happy to let them live their life unchanged, then they will date her instead, because it’s easier for them. It certainly isn’t the best thing for them, but that doesn’t always matter to single men. Choosing what is right and what is easy are two very different things, and a lot of men will choose the easy option, because then they don’t have to challenge their own insecurities or grow as a person in any other way.

Now, this post isn’t about belittling other women, and we aren’t saying these other women aren’t good women. What we are saying though, is that these women may simply not have reached a point in their life where they are expecting more of their men. It’s easy when we’re young and in love to accept our men as they are, but most women will go through a point in their life when they realize they want more. And it’s at this point of maturity where a good girl becomes a good woman. She steps into her own, and she expects a man to step up with her. But often these men simply don’t.

One day they will, of course, all men mature at some point and realize that the right woman for them is a good woman, but sometimes it takes a little longer for men to realize it. Just like every other stage of development in life, women just seem to mature a little quicker than men do. And that’s ok, but it can be frustrating for women to have to sit back and watch failed date after failed date, when they know they’re a good woman who could be great for any man in their life.

A Message For The Future

But don’t give up yet! If you’re a good woman struggling to find a man, or you know somebody else who is, then make sure you hang on to this last section. It’s easy to let your confidence be knocked when you’re struggling to find love. It’s also easy for you to lose the self-esteem you’ve worked so hard to build, and to just settle for any man. But don’t. You are a woman, and you deserve a man, not a boy!

If you don’t get a call back from your next date, then simply move on. That single man will know he has to work on his insecurities in time, but it’s not your job to let him know that. Instead, keep looking, because as much as we’ve spoken about single men not being mature enough to handle a good woman today, there are plenty of good men out there who already know that a strong woman is the right woman for them. The trick is finding them, but the more you look, the easier that’ll be! So straighten your crown and move on to the next, you’ll find a man who is worthy of you soon enough.